I know from reading the blog post most have already drew the conclusion from the word usage of “people” that its actually meaning is “relationships”. One of the most fundamental building blocks of all human relationships is how and where you meet that special person, and in most cases it can dictate the future of where your relationship is headed.

A clear-cut example of this is the young professional woman who decides to go out on a date with her male friend from the recreation volleyball team that they both belong to. Right off the bat there is a sense of social trust between both parties because they both share mutual friends and they share a common social activity.

The parallel to this is the random nightclub dude who gather his balls to go kick some game to the women behind the bar. She gets spoken to and hit on over 20 times a night and she is also 20 pounds overnight with chest hair yet just from a being bartender dudes are attracted to her. There is no common social activities and also no friends in common and this just makes the boundaries of attraction that much difficult. This post should serve as a guideline to people who have just moved to a new area of the country or just are looking to expand their social circle.

This post is not aimed any gender but instead aimed to chastise all the self-help gurus who think they have this whole attraction mechanism thing figured out.

1. Coed Recreational Sports. Even if you suck at sports being pathetic is cool and accepted and due to these imperfections of yours it will make you seem open and easier to talk to.

2. The GYM, great place to casually get involved in useless and inefficient conversation that sometimes could lead bigger and better things. From a guys stand point even if this equates to going up to random beautiful girls in the gym and asking how many more sets they have the hip flexor machine this is still easier with a higher probability of success then the stereotypical bar pick up.

3. Church or in my case the Synagogue. Yes I know some people aren’t religious but these relationships that you could foster in these so called “High Holy” places could be some of the strongest that you could form out there. Who knows you could go from filling the tip jar with dollars to filling her panties with dollar bills if you play your cards right.

4. Taking a class that you in most cases would never take. What this might mean is stepping outside your comfort zone and taking a Latin or Hip Hop class or taking a Yoga class. Due to the fact that in most cases you will stick out like a sore thumb in these classes you will earn style points for being the proverbial village idiot.

5. Volunteer, you will find the most caring and sane individuals when you volunteer at places like Habit for Humanity. The people you meet actually feel like they have sense of purpose in life unlike the normal people like us whose purpose in life to hoar as much useless paraphernalia like “remote control desk lamps” that serve no human purpose except to feed our quite shallow egos.

6. Get a Pet. Highly recommended, once you have a dog or cat you have gained ultimately credibility. You could take the dog for a walk and make casual conversation with a sweet lady while your dog takes a shit and you could gossip about how many times a day and where your dog prefers to his/her shits and these small anecdotes could lead into even more profound conversation.

7. Visit Museums by yourself, this is also a great way to meet people. As you stumble your way down the hallways of the local Art exhibit you run into the realm of possibilities that there might be another person who eats sticky buns then licks their fingers and then proceeds to try to touch all the painting exhibits and yet at the same time tries to show some semblance of intelligence with a subtle dumbfounded look on their face that screams “I’m lonely”. Maybe you might meet your match.

8. The Library (not the bar). Yes going to the library and acting like you are reading a children’s book while creepily sneaking up on the person sitting next to you while they act like they’re reading an even thicker book is a skillful way to score a long lasting love relationship.

9. Singles Groups/Meet Up Groups. You will be sure to find the cream of the crop of society at these events. After all don’t so-called “hot” people love to surround themselves with other desperate human beings? Sometimes though you will be joyfully surprised to find an individual at one of these events that might have slipped through the proverbial crack.

10. Business Networking Events really doesn’t matter what business you are in. This scenario goes back to the 11th grade where you’re sitting with your guidance counselor trying to find out what profession you want to do in life. When you go to these events the people you speak to never listen to any words you have to say and most don’t even look you in the when you speak to them. Unless they are attracted or their trying to make money off you or if you are slick enough to continually spit on them when you talk they in most cases don’t even know that you exist unless you spill alcohol on them but it just opens the proverbial flood gates for that innovative individual who goes to Adult Porn Convention after Party only to spill the vodka on the playboy playmate of his dreams. Yes this actually opens the entire time draw your own conclusions.

* Cheers