So I just wrote a post on how “10 ways for girls to attract that guy” geared toward women now to solve the more difficult side of the of the equation. How can a guy do the unexpected and score a date with the attractive, smart, and intelligent female that he so desires.

You might not look like Brad Pitt, you might not have the gift of the gab and you might not be able to throw down cash on lavish gifts but you still have a fighting chance. Below are the top 10 ways you could possibly attract that special girl. Remember the way you dress, the way you talk (tone), and the people you hang out with are all by products of the aura that you are giving off and they will be a by product of the people that you will attract in the near future. If you are unhappy with the women you attract you should examine your dress, your body language, your friends, and your speaking tone.

This post is geared toward the guy who has a target in mind and is in some public place and has no past or prior connection to the women he desires. . Most of the time guys are grouped together in the same stereotypical fashion by women, they think that we don’t notice the little things and then little things always turn into big things. You will not be grouped into if you do your homework.

1. Starting with the basics. Take A deep interest, this is very important most of us dudes never really pickup on the little things. This includes, Hand gestures is she playing with her phone? How is she girl sitting i.e. if she has her legs crossed that usually means she is in relax mode and if she has her arms folded that she means most likely is in a bad mood and doesn’t want to be messed with or is cold. What colors is she wearing? if she is wearing dark clothing she most likely is all about handling business either coming from work or class or somewhere of importance.

What is she drinking and how much is left in the glass? This could tell you if she is going to move from that present position obviously if there is nothing left in the glass then she is most likely going to move from that current position so it will be harder for you to have continual conversation and easy for her to make an excuse to exit the conversation. Also last but not least is she wearing a ring? Unless you are happy with going after the desperate housewives picking up on this could save you the trouble. The more you pick up on, the easier it is to keep a conversation and understand escalation points and bring up elements of your lives that you have in common to possibly graduate the conversation to bigger and better opportunities. These might not always be the case but a good portion of the time I have personally found these theories as being true.

1a Eye Contact Before you talk to anybody always look them in their eyes, once you guys connect eye to eye you could most likely figure out if there is any attraction what so ever. Also be sure to smile, once you smile at someone and they smile back it’s almost like an open invitation to come say “hi”

2. Keep everyone interested and be in control. Most of the time you will approach a girl and she will be with friends or colleagues. It is important to do your best to casually keep the crowd interested and then slowly get to know your target. You could accomplish this goal simply by making fun of each person in the group in a way that doesn’t way anyway feel to uncomfortable. What works best for me usually in scenarios when it is obvious that I am trying to create some attraction is to make fun of how pathetic I am sounding. Remember it is near difficult for a girl to reject you, when you are talking about pathetic you are sounding just from my experience.

2a. Remember Names This is something we learn in kindergarten yet is very important and discounted in every day life. Once you meet someone make it a point to remember all his or her names. Repeat their names if you have to, this shows that you are listening and you actively are interested in getting to know them on a deeper level. It shows you care and are different than 90% of guys out there.

3. Dress for the Occasion If you’re going to a Yankee game wear a baseball jersey. If you’re going to a trendy lounge, dress like you meant it. Remember a guy could never be accused of being an attention whore and if you are accused of this it is good thing. Taking this into account, don’t be scared to test out pink or other colors that might make you stand out but not make you look foolish. Wear clothes that fit your body type. If your on the heavy side try to stay away from horizontal stripes and if your skinny try to stay away from solid cut double breasts shirts as these don’t bring out your best features.

4. Touching. When you meet someone they connect with you on a deeper level with something I refer to as “comfort touching”. When you shake hands put your hand over hers, tap her shoulder when you make a joke just don’t go over line toward creepiness. This builds comfort level and trust.

5. Be Genuine and Be Yourself. This is one of the under rated aspects of attraction. The more real and human you are with people the more opportunity you give the other person to be attracted and like to you. You will find that the more honest you are with yourself and other people the easier it is to talk to and connect with other people on a deeper level.

6. Be Decisive and Confident- If you are going to go to talk to someone, talk with a sense of purpose and confidence and be decisive in what you say and back it up. Women naturally have trouble making tough decisions that doesn’t mean that you need to decide what’s best for a girl that you don’t know but instead if you plan on asking a girl out on a date be firm and confident about it. Set out a plan and stick to it, most women I find love it when a guy takes control and is decisive.

7. Do not talk about Baggage I guess this is an obvious try not to bring up ex girlfriends or excess baggage such as jail time or unemployment or anything negative. You want to make that first impression amazing and to do that you have to set the tone for the atmosphere by being positive and creating energy that is tantalizing.

8. Games Everybody loves fun and games if you are able to engage your target in a fun game such as slaps with the hands on top of hers and you could get each other laughing then you have it made because you are creating happy memories that will resonate in both of your minds for a long time.

9. Cocky Humor Cocky humor is also very important being funny without actually trying to be funny is a skill not a lot of people possess. If you could make your counter part laugh you are lightening up a somewhat tense sexual environment and you create a sense of trust that you could easily build upon.

10. Understand your Environment. This is very important and very much overlooked. Understand the environment and the surroundings and the purpose the person that you are targeting is where they are. As an example today I am hanging out on South Beach during Pro Bowl weekend and I hanging out on the streets at a local buy. I understand right off the bat, the women here are looking for one thing and that is guys with $$. They obviously aren’t going to go out to the bar just to buy themselves $18 drinks and talk about girl stuff, also they are dressed up in the most uncomfortable high heels and they are looking for the most part at the ground when they walk. This shows me that they are looking for cars, jewelry or in most cases something flashy to catch their attention. You might have to understand your environment on a deep level and never let alcohol affect your awareness levels. The greater awareness the more likely hood that you will put yourself in position to meet somebody of great importance.

Obviously I don’t proclaim that I have all the answers there isn’t anybody on the Internet with all the answers to any attraction questions. The lessons I learn are from past successes and failures and it is important to learn from your mistakes and constantly improve communication skills and never let negative thoughts impair your mind from present day successes. Living in the present is key.